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One of the erogenous zones I talked about in More about Outercourse, Explore Each Other’s Erogenous Zones was the G-zone.
Why “G-zone” rather than “G-spot?”
Also, why the “G” at all? Well, that comes down to a history lesson.
The realization of the importance of the anterior vaginal wall and orgasm is attributed to the German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg (hence “G”) in 1950. The term G-spot was later coined to recognize Dr. Grafenberg’s research and broke into public awareness in 1982 with the publication of the book “The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality” by Ladas, Whipple and Perry.
Dr. Grafenberg’s original description of the G-spot refers to a small but highly sensitive area on the anterior vaginal wall about a third of the way up from the vaginal opening. “Anterior” means the front wall or belly side of the body. The G-spot is sometimes described as a walnut-sized area that has a rougher, “spongier” texture than the rest of the vaginal wall.
So, does the G-spot actually exist?
The challenge has been to prove the anatomic existence of the G-spot in studies with reproducible results. Research attempting to find a definitive G-spot has mostly been unsuccessful.
That may be because the lower anterior vaginal wall is actually part of the clitoral network or zone. The clitoris is not only the external nubbin that’s visible where the inner labia (lips) meet. That is just the tip of the iceberg! The non-visible, internal part of the clitoris is shaped more like a wishbone. The “arms” of the wishbone extend down and around through the inner labia and up into the lower anterior vaginal wall.
So, stimulating the anterior vaginal wall—the “G-spot”—may actually be stimulating the internal part of the clitoral zone! It is filled with thousands of pleasure nerve endings.
That is why I prefer to use G-zone rather than G-spot.
How to Stimulate the G-Zone
While most women need external clitoral stimulation (and plenty of it!) to reach orgasm, many also enjoy internal G-zone stimulation. Some can take it or leave it, while for others, it’s necessary for orgasm. Everyone is different, and that’s something to be explored and celebrated!
An orgasm from both external clitoral stimulation and internal G-zone stimulation at once is sometimes called a “blended orgasm.” Some women describe a G-zone orgasm (sometimes called a “vaginal orgasm”) as a “deeper” orgasm than a clitoral orgasm. However, there is no better or worse, right or wrong way to experience orgasm!
Here are several ways to stimulate the G-zone, with options for solo and partnered sex.
Self-Exploration
It may be easier to find the G-zone through self-exploration since the region varies from woman to woman. While lying in bed, gently insert a well-lubricated finger into the vagina. Pressuring upward along the front (belly side) vaginal wall and moving the finger side to side will help you find your zone. Be patient, thorough, and enjoy the search!
After finding the zone with your finger, you will be more confident moving on to an internal sex toy or guiding your partner.
Fingering
Internal vaginal stimulation using the finger(s) is called “fingering” or sometimes “finger sex.” As with a toy or penis, the vagina should be well-lubricated before insertion. You can use lubricant on the finger(s) also.
Start with one finger; you can work up to two or three if it’s comfortable and pleasurable. Try a “come here” gesture, curling the fingers against the front (belly side) vaginal wall. Some women enjoy a circular motion. Experiment with rhythm, depth, motion, and speed. Communicate and “check-in” with your partner often throughout the process.
When fingering, you need to make sure the hands, fingers, and nails are clean and free of any cuts or broken skin. The fingernails should be clean, short, and smooth. For safer sex, you can wear a finger cot, condom, or glove.
Positions for G-Zone Stimulation During Penis-in-Vagina Sex
The standard missionary position (man on top) doesn’t provide the best opportunity for G-zone stimulation. Here are some alternatives. Have fun experimenting with what works best for both of you!
- Woman on top (sometimes called “cowgirl”) enables more control over depth of penetration, angle of penetration and rhythm.
- Penetration from behind allows for more stimulation of the front (belly side) vaginal wall. In one variation (sometimes called “doggy style”), the woman can be on her hands or elbows and knees, with the knees on the edge of the bed. The man stands behind her.
- With the woman on the bottom, she can close her legs together after penetration while the man spreads his legs. Not only does this provide more G-zone stimulation, it provides stimulation of the scrotum for the man.
Our article on Sex Positions for Limited Mobility has non-graphic diagrams of these positions.
Try Positioning Wedges and Cushions!
There are also ways to modify the standard missionary (man on top) position to provide more G-zone stimulation. Using a positioning wedge (sometimes called a sex cushion or sex pillow) under the woman’s hips tilts the pelvis up, changing the angle so that the penis comes into contact with the front (belly side) vaginal wall during thrusting. Wedges and pillows can make from-behind positions more comfortable, too, by taking pressure off the hands and elbows.
Liberator is a trusted maker of quality supportive positioning wedges, ramps and sex cushions.
G-Zone Vibrators, Massagers & Stimulators
You can enjoy a G-zone vibrator solo or with a partner. They provide the strong, consistent stimulation many women need to reach orgasm.
Vibrators and massagers that are specifically designed for G-zone stimulation have a distinctive curved shape and tip that massages the front (belly side) vaginal wall when inserted. This makes them different from standard dildos. The vibrator motor is typically in the tip, rather than the base. Most G-zone toys are marketed as G-spot vibrators or massagers, so they’re easy to identify.
Some G-zone vibrators simply vibrate, while others combine a thrusting, rotating, or “come here” waving motion that mimics the feeling of finger sex. These toys are often more girthy in size. If you’re new to G-zone stimulation or penetration, it’s best to start off with a slimmer, smaller, and simpler toy.
Many G-zone toys have an external vibrating piece that provides clitoral stimulation at the same time. These are often called “rabbit vibrators” because the clitoral stimulator is shaped like rabbit ears. Rabbit vibrators have long been popular because they provide the combination of vaginal and clitoral stimulation many women find pleasurable.
When choosing this type of toy, it’s important to look at the insertable length. If the toy is too long for you, you won’t be able to insert it far enough for the clitoral vibrator to come into contact with your body.
When purchasing any insertable toy, it’s important to pay attention to the dimensions for something that will be comfortable. These toys will be inside the body, so always choose quality products made of body-safe materials, such as body-safe silicone. A good lubricant will make insertion more comfortable. If your toy is made of silicone, be sure to choose a water-based lubricant, as a silicone lubricant can damage the toy.
What is the take-home message?
- Think G-zone, not G-spot. Define your own zone!
- Experiment with self-exploration, fingering and different sexual positions to find the best G-zone stimulation for you. Positioning wedges and cushions can help.
- Internal vibrators, such as G-spot vibrators and rabbit vibrators, can be pleasurable options for solo or partner play.
- Safer sex isn’t just for penis-in-vagina sex. Make sure fingers and toys are clean before inserting them into the vagina. The fingers should be free of cuts or broken skin. You can use condoms on fingers and toys.
- Lubrication will make vaginal insertion more comfortable. Use a water-based lubricant with silicone toys.
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